Tuesday, February 9, 2010

Ships That Pass In The Night!




“There are those who pass like ships in the night, who meet for a moment, then sail out of sight with never a backward glance of regret; folks we know briefly then quickly forget. Then there are friends who sail together, through quiet waters and stormy weather, helping each other though joy and through strife. And they are the kind who give meaning to life.” Author Unknown

When I first read this quote it touched something in me. It made me realize how we all are ships on the sea of life. In real life,Twitter or Face Book, we all come and go out of each others lives. Some leave us with good memories, others not so much. But, however brief, or good or bad, we all leave our mark on each other.

It used to hurt when people I thought were friends turn out not to be. In real life it’s calls unreturned or invitations not given. On Twitter it can be dms or tweets unanswered or being unfollowed or blocked. It took a while for me to realize it had nothing to do with me. It had to do with the other person. They made the choice. So all I can do is pick up and move on. This is what I tell my friends when they come to me upset because of how someone just dropped them.

It does us no good to dwell on why they did it or what did I do. We will never know the answer. Like ships passing in the night, soon that person will no longer be in our sight. The best thing to do is look toward your horizon. For on the other side are new friends just waiting to meet you. New people who will leave their mark on you. Good and bad experiences that will add to the growth of your being.

While you will have people go out of your life and it can be painful. Sometimes, if you are really blessed you will find that person or persons who can be called a #BFF. They are there when you are happy and will never leave you when you are sad. They have seen you when you look like a million bucks and when you look like something the cat dragged in. To have people who love you for who you are and not what you can give them or what you look like is worth more than anything money can buy. I can say I have been blessed with wonderful #BFFs. If I were given a choice of a very successful writing career and a fabulous life or having my #BFFs. I would choose my #BFFs. To not have people in your life who know you so well that they know when you need a laugh or a shoulder to cry on is very sad to me. I would be so very lost without my #BFFs.

So, to all the people in real life and in the cyber world who have sailed out of my life. I wish you all the best. I learned from you and it was time to part. Does this mean I wasn’t hurt or angry. No! I am human after all, but I don’t like dwelling on the negative. I choose to be positive

28 comments:

Tormented Soul said...

Marianne,
Very well said. As always; you have a very tender way of expressing yourself. Like you, I have experienced the "ships passing through the night," and have felt the hurt; however, I also learned that it was usually the result of either a misunderstanding, or perhaps that it was never truly a friendship. With each time that has happened I have grown stronger and less afraid of the potential of being hurt by another. I agree so much with your statement about the value of those "BFF's" I have been blessed with friendships I might never have known without having the courage to face the "temporary" nature of some. Without those in my life whom are real, and care enough to be there when I need "the shoulder to cry on" or to provide "the laugh I needed," and to not be able to provide the same for them; would be very sad to me. Through the value provided by some amazing people on Twitter, I learned to trust again, and my faith in people remains strong.
To you, my dear friend, I am proud to consider you amongst my chosen "BFF's" and for being that in my life, I will always be grateful. Congratulations on another post so wonderfully written. This should help others put their feelings about what they have experienced in perspective.

Always here for you,

Pamala @TormentedOne @ARoadTaken

Anonymous said...

Great post Marianne! Yes it is sad when we care for others and they pass out of site without a backward wave!
Yet as you said, we learn from the experience. One of the ways that i have learned so much about myself is by watching how i react to these experiences...it shows me where i have my own things to work on...So I say, let them unfurl their sails and take off over the horizon if that is what they wishto do! They can go with love,and tho we are hurt by their departure, we are enriched by the experience!
Thank you for posting this great article that caused me to Think! : ) Hugs N much Love!! Debra @momsofamerica

Barbara Duke said...

What a wonderful post. It is so strange that is what you chose to write about. I needed to hear that. Thank you for stating it so well. You really are a wonderful writer. I also read some of your other missives and enjoyed them tremendously. Thank you!

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Beth Hoffman said...

Lovely and deep.

Maude Fortman said...

This is beautiful and sweetie it's her loss.

Anonymous said...

Some of us are not fortunate enough to have BFF's. Just life circumstances, nothing of our own doing. My feeling of solitude though I am surrounded by people, has just made me appreciate that I have God in my life...no, that He is my life.

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You have an inspiring outlook on people who no longer want to be in our lives! Beautiful blog and beautiful writings! I hope to read more from you! :)

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